Now, seriously, how do you know if you are lusting or loving. You look at people these days and you see a lot of "love" in their eyes. The only question is, "Is that true love or is it true lust?" I've wondered that for so long that I just decided to give up on figuring it out myself. I'm sure that if I ever truly end up loving someone I'll know but so far everytime I've thought I loved someone I found that I really was just lusting. She was pretty but after she left me I realized what I felt was in my pants not in my heart.
Then one thing comes to mind... if I loved someone would it be a nausea that I'd feel or would I feel it somewhere else? Maybe some of our happily married can help me out here? If not, maybe I can bring up a point. My pastor said something along the lines of love not being a feeling but more of an action. Love is not wanting to have sexual relations as often as possible, but instead it is sacrificing your time to take her out to dinner and make sure she's comfortable.
Love is always sacrificing something you have for your better half.
I guess a good example would be that story about the man and woman that are looking for a gift for each other. The man only has a watch and the woman only has her hair for valuables. The man sells his watch to get her a brush and she sells her hair to get him a chain. That to me is love but how do you know you're not just going through the motions?
I don't know if I have/do loved/love anybody that much and I don't know if I will but maybe there's a sign to look out for to help me figure it out.
Capt. over and out!