My aggressive journey to say a few words. (AKA) I'll be saying stuff that won't matter to many of you but it'll ALL mean something to me.
Published on April 16, 2004 By wnx_decoy In Philosophy
We all know that most people try and find friends that act like themselves. Well I think that that's only part of what we do. In my experiences with different social groups I think it's safe to say that my original statement is false. I will go into this soon, but what I want to say now (before anyone gets the wrong impression of me) is that I personally don't fit into any social group that I can think of.

One part of my philosophy towards friendship is that you don't go looking for someone like you. In fact you do the oposite. If you went to find people just like you, eventually the cycle would circulate to the point that EVERYONE would have the same interests and dreams. Let's say, you like cars and yard nomes. If you want to find someone with the same likings than you'll probably find that ONE person, 'just like you'. But what if you want more friends? What would you look for then? Someone with SIMILAR interests? But then you don't have that connection, right? Wrong! That slight diference actually strengthens your social acceptance (somthing most of us 'need') because you can now have more friends like him/her because you have accepted and, most likely, added his/her qualities to your own. Now, if you actually found more people like yourself than that limits your 'circle of friends' considerably.

The other part of my philosophy towards friends is the bond of differences in the relationships. Your friendship is only as strong as the differences in your personality. When you go to the mall, how often do you look at a couple or just two friends, and ask yourself why they're together? It's because they understand what I'm saying here. If you stick with guys that are just like yourself, you are not going to excel in anything spectacular, where if you have friends that have oposing opinions, you'll get tons more help achieving what you need.

Oww!!! Ummm.... I'll finish this later, I have to get off the computer. My dad's girlfriend's getting all offensive of me still being awake and stuff.

Capt. over and out!

Comments
on Apr 16, 2004
Does any one really just go looking for a friend that is just like them? Probably not. Most of mine I have just stumbled upon in one odd way or another.

Someone with SIMILAR interests? But then you don't have that connection, right? Wrong!

This is a really good point. The similarites begin the conversations but the differences are the things that make you "connect" with your friend.


that ONE person, 'just like you'. But what if you want more friends?


Is having more friends better? I basicaly have a few close friends and then a lot of other people who are just there, and really fun to talk to and be around but there isn't an extremley strong bond or anything there. I would sooner have just a few great friends than a whole pile of people. Anyways I think thats off-topic.

ok, well that was my best attempt to replying seriuosly, sorry if it was way off but I can't help that lol. I'll come back and read when its finished.

10-4
on Apr 17, 2004
I want to say now (before anyone gets the wrong impression of me) is that I personally don't fit into any social group that I can think of.


Capt~that is one of your strong points. And it shows me just how mature you really are. You don't need to belong to a special little group of like minded folks~in order to feel safe and maybe even a little bit superior. You seem to keep an open mind and heart, and that's what drew me to your cool blogs when I first came on board here. I must say that your way of thinking of others seems very mature and open minded to me. And I am sure many of your friends (cyber and real-life) probably like that fact about you a lot. So it's a really good thing. I wouldn't sweat it a bit if I were in your shoes, etc. Very insightful blog! Even if you didn't get to finish it! .

~MadPoet
on Apr 17, 2004
Thanks mad. I still don't have time to finish it but...

Capt. over and out!
on Apr 18, 2004
Alright, I'm finishing up now. I just don't know if I can get back onto the track I started on. Well, here we go anyways...

One thing that I have found to be true in every relationship is the truth in your relationship. If you go looking for friends who are popular, you may end up like them, which is what you want, but you will not be one of them. The number of friends you have (as crazy llama pointed out before i got to it) is not as important as the friends you are truly friends with. You may like someone but if they don't have the same feeling than you hanging around is not a great idea. You are not truly a friend in their opinion. That basically makes it impossible for you to have a true relationship of any kind. Friendship may seem to most as something in which one person can want to be friend another. They think that is enough. I'm here to say it isn't. You need to find someone who will accept you as a friend.

This is where the numbers thing I was talking about earlier comes into play. When you open up a larger circle to find friends you are very likely to find both bad 'friends' and good friends. The difference is the beter chances of finding one of the good ones increases with the size of acceptance you make. It doesn't necesarily mean you will have to have more friends (crazy llama). it's basically a way of making more 'good' friends.

That's about all I can get. I lost my train and now I'm stranded. Sorry I couldn't finish it up how I wanted but hopefully you got the idea I was trying to get across.

Capt. over and out!
on Apr 20, 2004
hopefully you got the idea I was trying to get across.


Capt~yeah, i got the idea. This is a cool blog dude. Do you think "cyberfriends" can have an impact too? Or do you just mean real life friends? That's one question that popped into my head. Hope to chat with you soon dude.

~MadPoet
on Apr 20, 2004
This is a really good point. The similarites begin the conversations but the differences are the things that make you "connect" with your friend.


While this may be true of some people, it has never been for me...my friends are people with whom I share similar interests...the differences are shoved to the side, and are not any form of "connection".
on Apr 20, 2004
Mad~ Yeah, I think cyberfriends count because. I think you're rubbing your entusiasm (??) off on me and crazy llama 96 helped me to show my inner humor to help make the Adventures with Capt. Cornbread and many other odd things I've come up with lately.

Capt. over and out!